Like an anandate, it transcends to anandatino, then finally to crescendo. Don’t get confused, I’m not really talking about band sounds but sound emanating from a woman’s body.
It was around 5:30 a.m when we started hearing noise from a nearby house. Initially, we thought a creepy animal like a snake entered their apartment and they were struggling to get rid of the serpent.
At a time, the noise started increasing, followed by children crying. By this time I told Winner that we need to check what’s happening because it’s becoming unusual.
We rushed to this man’s house but were shocked by what we witnessed. Blood was gushing out from the wife’s hand while other parts of her body had bruises.
Before we got to the scene, people closer than us had intervened. We saw the man still struggling to panel beat his wife the more. That was when Winner became mad and told him never to try it in his presence. He turned to Winner and questioned his authority over his family.
As my profession demands, I had to go for questioning even though the woman remained dumb. The mother told us that he came back drunk almost midnight and ordered the wife to open her door which she did. All of a sudden she started beating her. As if that wasn’t enough, he waited till morning.
That early morning, he came with a bunch of brooms and started a panel beating the wife. The mother tried to intervene but he turned to his mother and started beating her. That was when I became mad myself and went to the man as he was still challenging Winner for questioning him. I told him in Igbo that if he ever try even pointing Winner again, I will use him for early morning exercise. He saw Winner with a small body, that gave him the guts. But as he looked at me, he knew quite well I could lift him with one hand (thanks to my breast I called chest) which usually scare people away.
Prior to that morning, I had been discussing with Winner concerning the woman. She’s always at home with her four children. She does nothing to support herself. I think she’s part of those that always sing the chorus “my husband said…”
It’s very pitiful as so many women (80%) are depending on men for their wellbeing. But always try to fight who ever goes contrary of her not being equal to men (feminist). The fact that your 60% daily activities depend on your man, my dear you have lost the fight. So, take note.
Now who is an independent woman? …
A strong and independent woman is indeed, something to behold. She can diligently command the room when she walks in but does not seek the attention for its owner sake. She is well acquainted with what she wants and that she is more than capable of getting it on her own. She has opinions and beliefs that she is never afraid to express. She isn’t a princess waiting in the tower for someone to save her according to Kim in power of positivity.
She effortly left that tower long ago and saved herself.
She is never an aimless woman — she has a plan,a purpose, a mission,and she will not be diverted or distracted from achieving it. Because she does things differently,she is powerful. An independent woman stands out! She holds on and she holds out!
As an independent woman, you don’t always wait for a decision you know would be favourable. You don’t have to worry that you will hurt someone’s feelings. When you have a problem, you decide what to do about it and not wait around for someone to decide for you.
As an independent woman, you don’t waste time complaining all day that something isn’t done. You do it yourself so far you understand that complaining doesn’t actually accomplish anything and that the task isn’t going to do itself. So, you get it done and move on to the next thing.
As an independent woman, you don’t wait for your man or others to do things for you. You may not know how to do it, but you will find a way to learn how to do it. That means you can get it done and move on.
As an independent woman, you make things happen and retain your respect from your man. In the absence of his leadership, you lead. You ought to be very proactive rather than reactive.
If this said woman has something doing which distances her from total dependency, this barbarian called her husband won’t have had such guts to try shit on her. But to him, he has every right as even quoted by him to do whatever he likes with the wife all because he stands to be the pillar of the house.
Finally, standout and fight for your independence rather than wasting your precious time on becoming equal to the man whom part of you depends on. Marrying an independent woman is the desire of every modern man.
© Vikz 2020.