‘‘A retreat is an opportunity to engender creativity — a time to remove your nose from the grindstone and look to the hills, a chance to think about what ought to be — and devise steps to get there’’.
During enemy assault, mostly when the “good guys” (army, navy, police etc) are caught unawares by the villain and fire is being exchanged, the first line of action they take is to do a temporary retreat. They flee into holes and encampments where they can stay and get themselves organized, and then they move out after getting orders from their leader.
When any major or minor setback, do one thing: RETREAT. That you retreated doesn’t mean that you have surrendered. Yeah, bear in mind that the sailor that got shipwrecked on sea, he swam and got to the bank and then made plans on how to continue the journey.
How do you start planning?
Identify the problem: Every problem has a name and some attributes that would serve as markers and also has an explanation of its nature and circumstances of its existence.
Identify the source: a bad root could damage a huge tree. What caused the shipwreck? What was its backbone? Brainstorm this aspect of the identification
What are the spoilers for this setback?: Every problem has a weakness, find it out, map it out.
Goals are set-points or simply what you plan to achieve. Note the word “PLAN”. You plan how to come out and face off with the impending problem.
This is what will occupy your retreat session. To retreat doesn’t mean to go back and relax or start lamenting your woes; remember, whenever you meet a challenge, your walk of life simply stops, therefore you have to fight your way out of the problem (not dodge or swerve past it), that way, you will continue moving forward without past hindrances resurfacing.
Retreats can be used to:
~ Engage in a given planning process that links all the major units or contributors.
~ Evaluate, that’s take stock of progress in a project.
~ Ignite creativity and synergy around problems or future directions.
~ Discuss issues at a very deeper and more thoughtful level than they can in the “controlled chaos” of our environment.
~ Whatever the purpose for the retreat, you must understand that the retreat is not an end in itself; It’s simply one step among many.
NB: Everytime you swerve through a problem, don’t go around praising your smartness or how cunny you are. That particular problem will still find its way to you, and the danger is that this time around, it will present itself on a much bigger scale than it was before. So, always make sure you dealt completely with a problem whenever it comes before you continue your journey through life.
In your journey through life, it is important to make clear distinctions between your needs and your wants and especially during your “retreat” phase.
“Needs ” are those items or elements which occupy the topmost place in your priorities whereas “wants” can always be done without. But the problem lately is that most people have problems knowing what they NEED and what they WANT.
WANTs are things that you can do without for a very long time without it having adverse effects on your personal life. They can want for cars, want for houses, and want for other pleasures that we can actually stay without but NEEDs are so crucial that we can’t do without them.
How do you differentiate your NEEDS from your WANTS? There are simple ways to do that, and these are:
– Ask yourself:
“what do I do with this, once I get it?”
“For how long do I really have to thrive with this?”
“In the absence of this, will I feel that empty gap in priority?”
“for what purpose do I desire this?”
NB: As you ask yourself these questions, be sure to answer them based on what you already presumed to be your need.
The 1st question deals with the priority you attach to that particular item. The higher the priority, the closer it is to being a need and farther it goes away from being a want.
The 2nd question has to do with time. Needs obviously have a longer life span. For example, the need for a shelter (house); once you are able to rent a house you obviously live there a very long period of time, now think of a situation in which you now built a house? Time no longer counts there because you will have to live in it almost forever.
The 3rd question tells of its importance. How important is it? Can I do without it? If the answer to this question is YES, then that’s obviously a need; if NO, then that’s a want.
The 4th but not the least question asks about its purpose. Why do you desire it? For pleasure? For gain? For solution to immediate problems? The better grasp you have on the answer, the better grasp you have on whether it is actually a need or a want.
NB: Needs should be given proper attention even before considering your wants. A High School student needs a biro, a bag and some books; but apart from this; Laptop, iPad, wrist watch, haircut etc are now the WANTS which he/ she can actually do without. Although lately, people tend not to do without their mobile phones.