By Joshua Chinonso
The art of dating is no longer new as everyone, both old and young practice such. While is is not a problem when it comes to adult dating, what happens when it is laid in the hands of the teenagers and young adults?
Dating is now overrated in the society today and you are regarded as a “local man” if you don’t follow the trend. Most teenagers in a bid to show up and “belong,” they tend to go extra miles in pursuit of their so-called “bae” or “boo.”
Some of them do nasty things just to get a date.
The adolescent stage is a refining stage, and whatsoever one puts in there, will be used later in life. In as much as having friends and companions help in child’s growth and development, it is not wise that he she begins to indulge in immoral acts. A teenager has enormous responsibilities because that is the stage where one’s life dream is determined.
A teenager is yet to be mature both socially, financially, spiritually and even emotionally. So, the art of dating, no matter how nice it may seem, has it’s own side effects on the part of a growing teen. Here are some side effects:
Lack of Concentration
At adolescence, the child is expected to sit down and focus on his/her purpose in life. At this stage, it is not wise that one should start having lovers, as it may begin to breed negative thoughts, which will in turn lead to distractions. He/she begins to perform poorly in class and other activities because the mind is no longer thinking straight.
A teenager is emotionally immature and as such, cannot handle critical issues. Whenever a breakup occur, the teenager enters into depression and mood swings. This can affect the health and appearance of such one. This is why suicide victims are mostly teenagers. They haven’t understood what life has for them. They feel every disappointment is the end of the world. This is why they break down so easily.
A teenager who wants to show up, tend to do nasty things. They begin to practice illicit acts and this leads to the increase in rape cases in the society.
Some, in a bid to please their lovers, engage in immoral acts, which will in turn, damage the life of such individual.
These and many others, can make life a living hell for any teenager.
There is nothing wrong with having friends, but when a handshake reaches the shoulder, it becomes something else.
Having good friends can help promote a young adult but when it comes to a romantic affair, the teenager is too young to handle such as he or she is faced with so many decisions to make within a short time. They are constantly trying to know whether to chat or to read, to visit or to go to school, etc.
The parents, church, school, mosque, and society at large has a part to play in the promotion of the young adult to avoid something dangerous, and to build a better society for everyone.