It is a famous saying – that a person who is seen dead today actually died a long time ago.
The world can be seen to lie on a beam; one that expresses more uncertainties as the days go by.
Often times, people are faced with dire situations; a seeming tunnel that has no light at its end. A cloudy mind that seems to have tested the illumination of light.
An average young child is faced with the conflict of making life determining decisions; the adults on the other hand are forced to maneuver their ways through the mistakes they have already made, leaving more questions unanswered.
However, one may wonder why the conflict of decisions is found more among the young people.
It is needful to recognize that youthful age is a period of transition. People learn, unlearn and relearn, making decisions for a future they have proposed.
The comparisons arise, questions follow suit, understanding wanes, and confusion sets in with a corresponding uncertainty.
The series of events happen over and again and the question changed suddenly- What would my life ever become if I continue at this rate?
The pain builds up; one that seems better than what may be in the future, with compensating tears; that seem lighter than what may come to be.
Boldness sets in. Piece by piece, it lies up on itself becoming more dangerous to its host.
Soon, we find that a person, who wasn’t bold enough to go through a pain aimed at survival, has acquired just enough boldness to pass through the pain of dying.
If one could live after dying, there would probably be regrets.
Six feet below they will lay, being another gift to the grave and an enemy of their world; for the conflicts laid therein in the process of making a decision.
Nevertheless, these issues must not be left unattended to. Surely there always will be answers to questions. The difference being that these answers will usually be embedded in a process that most people are usually unwilling to accept.
Everyone has an ability to get depressed. Sadly, not everyone comes to terms with these facts. So over and again , we deny the state of our minds, pushing the solutions farther than they were.
In addressing emotional issues, one has to admit to the fact that there has been a fluctuation in the state of mind of that person. This step no matter how insignificant it seems keeps a person in check; helping them to monitor their actions.
Furthermore, it is advisable that anyone going through these times seek for help from someone they find trust worthy; a person who is willing to listen and understand, while taking them through the path of finding answers to their questions, and solutions to their problems.
Also praying consistently helps you to align your with God, drawing strength from Him and in turn making the right decision. Learn to pray always instead of complaining. All great men are praying people. Life gets better when we are ever ready to knee down in prayer.
Never give up. There is always a new beginning.
© Eddy Abasi-odiong