It was a Sunday afternoon and I could hear Mrs Gbenga’s voice from my room. It was clear, loud and reeked of anger. I could sense she was shouting angrily at someone and I was correct. She was scolding Bola her second child.
I got closer and decided to intervene. I don’t usually intervene in matters like this but after I noticed bola was in danger, I decided to step in. Bola goes on errands for me and this should be the least thing I should do for her. I pleaded with the mum to forgive her before asking what happened. Apparently, she decided to explain things to me.
From what Mrs. Gbenga said, Bola’s grades dropped drastically. It wasn’t what it used to be 4 years ago when she was in primary 1. The mom complained bitterly about her current performance. Shouting that Bola dropped from being the top of the class to 7th position in a class of 15 students.
However, something crossed my mind. Why exactly did her grades drop? And why is the mum angry just now if she’s comparing it to 4 years ago. I decided to ask her if she noticed the decline in her grades from primary 2 or 3.
The answer she gave me left me astonished. It was surprising. I never expected to get such an answer. At least not from a parent.
I was shocked and at the same time, in disbelief. I asked myself; Do parents really do this? Or was it a unique habit of hers?
I didn’t ask her the above questions though. Make I no pass my boundary. Lol. I kept them to myself. But I realised that day that there are lots of things parents should do for their kids’ education. It’s sometimes not about the money.
I made further research and found out that Mrs Gbenga wasn’t the only parent guilty of this crime. Yes! I call it a crime against the child.
Not having enough time to check your child’s grades and performance in school is wrong. Totally wrong.
Mrs Gbenga told me she never checked Bola’s results or performance for those 4 years. According to her, she was busy with work and trying to put food on the table. She had to work with her husband everyday to make ends meet and according to her, that was a good reason to neglect her child’s education for 4 years. After the above explanation from her, I left the place.
Many parents are fond of this. Most of my course mates in school, their parents don’t ask of their CGPA. Some don’t even know the meaning. They don’t call to ask if their kids are doing well educationally.
Neglecting your child’s education because you are busy is the same as saying you don’t care how the child gets trained. You don’t care about the knowledge your child takes in. You don’t scrutinize things. Eventually, the child will behave as he learns from others of course.
Another grave mistake parents make is trying to choose a career path for their kids. This one is very common. My child must be a doctor or lawyer or an engineer.
He must take after the family job. He shouldn’t be different after all, they have the same blood in their vein.
This kind of attitude is bad as it spoils things for the child. He struggles to like the course and pass it.
He struggles to stay in your good term. He struggles a lot emotionally and this will make his grades drop to abysmally low.
I only mentioned two. Pls name others in the comment section below.
Thanks for taking out time to read.